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In the past, it was tradition for wedding gifts to be given to the bride and groom by their guests to help them leave their parent’s houses and set up their new life together. Now, it’s becoming increasingly common for couples to live together for a year or more before marriage. By then, you’ve already got your pots and pans, and you probably have more bedding than you need.
Whether you are trying to reduce the clutter in your house, planning for a big move after your wedding, or already have everything you could possibly need, receiving hundreds of boxes of gifts probably has little appeal.
Wedding guests will typically spend anywhere from $50-$100 on a gift for newlyweds. You certainly don’t want that money to go to waste, so how do you ask for cash instead?
Let your guests know what you’re saving up for
The most effective way to receive cash over gifts is letting your guests know what they are funding. Explain what you’re going to be using this money for, whether it’s paying for your honeymoon or saving up for a house. Consider sending a picture with your thank you card of your honeymoon (if they helped fund it). If your guests gave you money with the assumption that you’d be snorkeling in the Caribbean, actually do it.
Make it easy for your guests to give cash
Set up an online account, such as Honeyfund, where your guests can donate to. This gives the option for guests to donate using a card instead of cash and give anonymously if they prefer. You will have a much better turn out if you provide your guests with a place to put their money, instead of relying on them to write you a check or put it in the card.
Spread the word
If you have a wedding website, keep your guests in the loop on the news of your wedding fund by saying something along the lines of “We are fortunate to have our household essentials, but we’d love your help in ____.” Put it on your save the dates and invitations. If guests can’t find your registry, they might assume you are just unsure of what you want instead of assuming you just want cash. If you are asking for cash, make it noticeable however you spread the word.
Don’t forget that your wedding is a celebration of your union. Even if you have requested cash, some guests may give you presents anyway. Be gracious for every gift you receive regardless of whether it was what you wanted or not. Your guests put a lot of thought into your gift, and you don’t want to come off as rude.